Sunday, January 29, 2012

My Personal Philosophy of Human Nature

Alright, I haven't posted in a while, but with good reason. School and work have kept me busy. I've been talking about my philosophy of human nature...well, the following is pretty much my paper. I added the italicized part just for your benefit. : ) I'm sure I could have done more, but with only one "good" source (since the Bible isn't considered a piece of professional literature)... this is what I could come up with in the time I gave myself, which wasn't much. We'll see what grade it comes back with but here you go. If nothing else, it's a condensed version of what I'm sure I'll have to eventually expand on. Thanks for reading!

The past two weeks, I have not done much writing, but I have been researching , thinking, and planning. Ok..and maybe a little procrastination..but give me a break: this is a hard thing to put down in writing. So, I will start out by saying this: I do not like calling myself a religious person, or even a spiritual person, because there are so many stereotypes behind both of those terms; I do, however, hold tightly to my beliefs and those beliefs, as well as many personal experiences, shape my view of the world and human nature. With that said, I will try to do my best to explain my views and beliefs on human nature.

According to Romans 3:10 of the King James Bible, “. . . there is none righteous, no, not one.” If righteous means good, then that must mean that all humans are bad. This statement is also supported by the Christian belief in the fall of mankind in Genesis chapter 3 and the subsequent beliefs that because of the fall, all humans are born with a sin nature. Even Stenmark (2009) admits that “human nature [is] the range of human traits and behavior patterns that are inborn rather than learned” (p.898) in his idea of a social constructivist’s point of view. Stenmark (2009) also discusses what he calls his “free will thesis, that [. . .] human beings are created by God with a free will” (p. 910). This is the Christian (and my own personal belief) that we, as humans, were created in order to follow and serve God, but that he wanted us to serve him voluntarily. He made the angels without free will to serve him involuntarily, but that’s a discussion for another time. Having free will made the fall of human kind possible, and again, proves that we are all born with a sin nature since we are all descendants of the first two humans. My personal philosophy, rooted deeply in my beliefs, is that everyone is born with a sin nature and a free will. I feel that I have adequately explained my basic beliefs on human nature, so I feel more comfortable moving on, as most of my other responses will stem from this basic belief.

People are motivated by different things; however, I believe that the basic motivation is pleasure or satisfaction. I believe that people do the things they do for pleasure. In some cases, such as drug and/or sex addictions, the pleasure may be more temporary than the pleasure you might get from helping at a food pantry or homeless shelter. Both good and bad deeds can bring a person pleasure, and we experience pleasure then we are more likely to repeat the action. This belief can be proven through behavioral theories as tested by B. F. Skinner with his birds. The birds were getting pleasure from their reward of food and so repeated the process.

Personal problems can be caused by any number of things. I believe, however, that stress is a large factor in personal problems. Yes, problems can be tests from God, or they can just be the messes that our sinful human nature has gotten us into, which would also explain some of the large amounts of stress that we are under. I also believe that stress is large reason for problems being maintained and even worsened. When we stress and worry over something, we sometimes tend to make the problem larger than it was to begin with. One simple example is when you stress over a test or homework assignment so much that you may put off studying, but then you realize that if you don’t at least look over the notes a couple hours, that you really will fail.

These problems can be fixed easily with stress or time management. However, mental problems that I may encounter in my future career will not be so easy to resolve and I understand that. Humans are complex. Some psychological problems can be resolved using medication, but medication will be a last resort when it comes to how I try to help my clients in the future.

Saturday, January 21, 2012

I think I've really found it...

While reading my Intro to Counseling book, I realized that I was actually excited about it and really getting into it. I've never been one of the over-achieving-read-my-textbook-all-the-time kind of people, so when I realized I was into the middle of chapter 2 (I was only planning on reading a couple pages of chapter 1), I realized that this is something I really will love. It's not just a small interest. I'm really excited about all of it. You know, that feeling you get when you know you're doing what God wants? Yeah. It hit me.

I feel so stupid (I was going to say sometimes, but it's honestly most of the time) when I'm surprised about how things turn out when I follow where I believe God to be leading me. I'm still not completely positive on the "specialty" He wants me to pursue but I'm sure He'll let me know in time.

Right now I have so many thoughts flying through my head that it's hard to focus on what I really came to blog about, so I think I'll cut this one short. Just, do me a favor? Pray for me. I know most of you, if not all of you do, but it feels good to know I can ask.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Babies, classes, and babysitting

Ok. Babies. Growing up, babysitting my siblings...I always told my mom that I was never going to have kids. (Now before anyone gets too excited or nervous, I am NOT pregnant.) With that said...babies and raising them has been on my mind so much lately and it's driving me crazy. I want children. Eventually. Who am I kidding? I want one now, but then again I don't. Ugh. Having a baby right now would not be good for either me or my husband. We still have so much learning to do with each other. Not to mention the fact that we both have some growing up to do; I feel like I jumped into raising a teenager, anyway, when I got married. Ha! AND while there are many money-savers....we don't have money to raise a baby. And we haven't even figured out how to save money properly with just the two of us.


The best thing for us is to wait. I know that. I just can't seem to shake the feeling that I should be talking about how far along I am, craving strange foods, and going to the bathroom every 5 minutes. Maybe it's the fact that people used to tell me what I great mom I would be. Maybe it's the fact that the majority of my friends have either had a child within the last 2 years or are currently pregnant. I don't know what else it could be. I'm 21. My biological clock should not be ticking so loudly! I know I'm not ready to have a baby, to raise a child. I know that. I do.


Maybe school will help keep my mind occupied. *sigh* Classes started today. One of my classes has me completely overwhelmed already. I'm taking 3 classes, but there is so much work already! In my counseling theories class, my first paper is over my personal philosophy of human nature. It's due on the 29th. God is trying to tell me something with this assignment...and I have a feeling it's going to be hard road. See? Who has time for wondering about the future when I'm trying to focus on times a little closer at hand?


If you made it this far, thanks for reading my jumbled thoughts. Moms: I will work at the school from 9-2 or 3 depending on how many days a week I work. As of right now, I'm working at Domino's as well (2 - 3 nights a week)...but I'd rather babysit...seriously. If any of you might have some regular times you want to get away and leave the kids with someone...or if several of you want to pay me to watch your children for a few hours... :)

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Update and Spring Semester

Ok. Second blog. I sat down to write it the other day...and it was mostly just rambling and was more of a flow of consciousness writing than a blog. It started out just being an update on my progress, but then I kept thinking of things I wanted to say and it just spilled out onto the screen in a jumble.

Anyway, as far as the progress report: I lost 4 pounds last week! Most of it was working on portion sizes, but I did start working on my activity level as well. I walked more and started playing on the Kinect more. Actually, right now I'm extremely sore. Unfortunately, I didn't do as well with my other resolution. And just so you all know, I toyed with the idea of leaving that information out of the blog completely, but in order to uphold the accountability I've asked for, I decided it was best to be honest - even though I'm really embarrassed.

Alright, moving on now. I started my Graduate Assistantship today! I think it's going to be great this semester! The lady I'm working for is great! I think the job is going to be pretty laid back, but I might have to opportunity to go with her on some of her trips to talk to the state government in Little Rock. I bet most of y'all didn't know that I love stuff like that?! I'm still nervous about classes, but they start tomorrow and I'm sure I'll figure it out soon.

Along with classes getting started back means that MBSF is gonna start back up next week and that has me super pumped! I didn't realize how much I missed all those girls until just now. Plus, I think there are some pretty cool things planned for this semester! I know they are going to start raising money for their mission trip to Belize and that's pretty exciting! Also, I was promised that we could have a Fruit Ninja party one night! (We have Fruit Ninja on the Kinect and it is pretty awesome. lol) Besides all of that, I really do like the Bible studies that we've done ever since the Blackfords got here. In fact, I could probably go on and on about all of my friends, including the Blackfords...but I think I'll save that sappiness for another blog.

Alright, well, I have a pile of laundry, literally a pile, that needs to be folded and put away. Oh, and does anyone have any ideas on how to make smelly fabric smell better? I got some from my Granny that had been stored in a plastic box..and they smell terrible. Help?! : ) Now...off to fold that laundry.

Monday, January 2, 2012

New Year, New Resolutions, New Job

I've made two New Year's Resolutions. Unlike in years before, I've thought long and hard about these; they are two things that I plan on taking throughout the whole year: a) lose fifty pounds and b) read my Bible everyday.

Those of you who have known me over the span of my life know that I've gained more than the "freshman fifteen" in the past couple of years. It's gotten to the point that I can hardly stand to look in the mirror anymore. Forget getting dressed up. None of my clothes really fit and shopping depresses me even more. I'm sure every woman goes through this at one point or another, but I can't stand it. I've had people tell me they've wondered if I was pregnant and no woman wants to hear that. If I think about it too long, I end up crying and asking myself why I don't get up and do something about it. So that's what I'm doing. I have no doubt that it will be a tough and emotional road...but I know that I can do it. God wants me to take care of my body, and I don't think I've been doing such a great job of that over the past couple years. And that brings me to my second resolution -

- reading my Bible everyday. You'd think that growing up as a preacher's kid that I would know better by now and already be in this habit, but unfortunately, I'm not. My senior year of high school, Mom and Dad started their Live It. It required them to record what they ate (basically counting calories if I remember right?), how much/long they exercised, and what verses they read every day. Getting healthy and staying healthy (aka losing weight and keeping it off) are not always easy to do, and you can't do it for yourself. That was what the Live It was about, keeping your temple God-worthy. Bible study is a huge factor in keeping your spirit healthy, just like physical exercise will help keep your body healthy. I still don't know what I'll be using as a guide for this portion of my New Year's resolutions, so I might just be free-styling like I've done in the past (we see how well that's worked out), although Katherine's Resolution 365 sounds like a good idea!

I really do feel as though I'm starting a new chapter this year. I'll be starting my Master's in a couple weeks, complete with a new job and new opportunities. Because my classes will all be online and/or at night, I feel as though I'll have more freedom to exercise and study my Bible. Like my voice teacher told me my freshman year, "You may just have to set aside time every day, just like you would with any other class." I'm almost scared to ask for it, because I know several of you will make good on it, but I need some accountability. I guess that's really why I started the blog. I'll update on my progress every couple weeks, but I'm hoping to blog about other things well. In any case, I would appreciate any prayers!

In saying that, it's definitely time for me to crawl into bed. Goodnight and Happy New Year!